Our daughter had a few days off at the start of Year 8 because of a procedure on an ingrowing toenail. This has seemingly brought to a head a number of underlying issues. Maybe we should have noticed signs earlier, I don't know, but we have major problems on our hands.
She is no longer willing to go to school. Not from the perspective of having a tantrum. She is getting into serious hysterics and tears and has threatened to kill herself if we make her go in. We took her to our GP and she appears to have depression. One evening last week, we had to take her to A&E; she was sobbing and repeating things over and over again ("I can't do this any more"; "I want to go somewhere else"). She has admitted to a couple of instances of self-harming as well.
We had the same issue trying to get her into school on Friday and had to take her to A&E again.
We are guessing (and this is only a guess and not an assumed diagnosis as we are not mental health professionals) that she has issues and is subconsciously projecting all those issues onto school and making it a large obstacle that she now wants to completely do away with. Unfortunately, as we all know, that is not an option we can let her take.
Whilst there must have been signs we missed, this has come at us like a bolt from the blue. We have a meeting at her school later today and a counselling session on Thursday, but we just cannot see how this is ever going to get resolved. There are times when we "get our daughter back", but the slightest thing that doesn't go as she wants can push her off the edge of an emotional cliff.
My wife and I have both had our own mental health issues in the past, so it is quite hard for us to deal with. We are doing our best and also trying to shield our nine-year-old son from the worst of it as well.
NOt sure I needed to put all the detail. I am just wondering if anyone has had to go through this before ... is she going to get better? How can we as parents know that we are doing the right things to help her?
Any advice would be welcomed at this point as it seems like an impossible mountain to climb.