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ang03
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Help me please

Postby ang03 » Tue Apr 20, 2021 10:42 pm

Hello, I need help, well I've been needing help for years and I can't get help, my life is completely ruined and I'm completely ruined yet all I hear is "It's going to be better" "You deserve support" but where is this support? How am I supposed to believe it's going to get better when for the past 8 years it's just been getting worse. I've tried different counselling services even though I keep asking my GP to send me to proper psychologists or someone that is able to diagnose me properly but they always tell me to go to the same places like Mind, Mental Health Exchange, Forward Thinking. I'm tired, I'm so tired I haven't had the desire to live for years and I have no idea what happiness feels like, I'm only staying alive because there's no one that can take care of my mother and now I'm in my last year of college failing all my classes even though I don't have a choice but to go to University even if I don't want to and I can't do any of my assignments I just physically can't bring myself to do it, I've tried I swear I've been trying for so long I've opened up to my tutor as well but all they did was give me extra lessons which don't help me because I can't do anything all my energy goes into not dying why can't people get that? They say they do but they don't, if they did they wouldn't say that my performance in class in unacceptable, I still turn up to class even though getting out of bed and leaving home makes me break down and feel as if I've been climbing up a mountain. I'm completely isolated, I don't have friends or family ( only my mum) but even she doesn't care she's mentioned it many times and told me to just die whenever I cried or told her I want to kill myself. I'm not able to get proper support or help, what the hell do I do? I'm tired of doing my own research, I'm tired of reading resources, I'm tired of hearing useless encouraging words, I just want someone to help me properly I can't do this alone.

betterinrecovery
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Re: Help me please

Postby betterinrecovery » Thu Apr 22, 2021 8:46 am

Read Ang03,
I just came back to the forum after being away for some years.
I was your post.
I am going to take time to answer you.
So come back to check out my reply.
I did my 2nd degree 20 years ago, I had support for my mental health from a tutor some of that time.
There is hope.
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betterinrecovery
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Re: Help me please

Postby betterinrecovery » Thu Apr 22, 2021 7:50 pm

Read Ang03,
As a first step and to save your energy, may I suggest that you copy and paste your post above and send it with a brief covering note to your GP.
I think you should have a psychiatrist assessment and a carer' assessment.
Putting things in writing is one way of getting the help you deserve.
You sound exhausted my dear,
Well done for what you have done to look after your mother and for getting to your final year.

Due to your circumstances, perhaps you can claim extenuating circumstances for taking the year off and returning next year, you could perhaps ask about this as you very burdened just now.

I am all admiration for what you are doing.

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betterinrecovery
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Re: Help me please

Postby betterinrecovery » Sat Apr 24, 2021 10:26 am

Dear Ang03,
I came back to here to find out how you are getting on.
After living with depression for so long, I would expect you to have been given access to a psychiatrist.
I agree is a limit to what can be done by charities unless you have had a thorough professional assessment.
Wishing you good luck,
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betterinrecovery
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Re: Help me please

Postby betterinrecovery » Wed Apr 28, 2021 7:07 am

Dear Ang03,
Were my comments of any help?
Are you getting more help for yourself?
I hope things are a little easier for you.
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ang03
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Re: Help me please

Postby ang03 » Wed Apr 28, 2021 7:49 pm

betterinrecovery wrote:Dear Ang03,
I came back to here to find out how you are getting on.
After living with depression for so long, I would expect you to have been given access to a psychiatrist.
I agree is a limit to what can be done by charities unless you have had a thorough professional assessment.
Wishing you good luck,
B
betterinrecovery wrote:Dear Ang03,
Were my comments of any help?
Are you getting more help for yourself?
I hope things are a little easier for you.
B

Unfortunately no, I can't depend on the NHS, the waiting list is for years and I just keep getting referred to charities by my GP.

epitaph
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Re: Help me please

Postby epitaph » Wed Apr 28, 2021 10:12 pm

Dear Ang03,

So sorry to hear that you are not receiving the help and support you so surely need and deserve. If it helps at all please keep posting here, as there are people who do care and know just how these things can make one feel. I wish l could take your pain away.

Take care...


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