kitty wrote:I’m glad to have come across this post, as I’ve been feeling horrid myself when watching movies with sex scenes, (lesbian scenes or naked women). It started by pointing out that, the level of nutidy for men and women is complete unequal! I feel that maybe if this became more equal and I saw more naked men in movies in a sexual way, I may feel better. But because is most of the time it’s women who are naked, It only makes me fee morel unfcomfortable. It’s never natural looking either, it’s always scenes with women with a specific body type, and perfect lighting etc etc, with the camera on them for enough time for the audience to enjoy it. It makes me feel so inadequate, especially as he never takes his eyes of the screen when a woman is naked. It really saddens me on a regular basis and we bicker over it, as it’s unavoidable in movies these days. I feel it’s understandable that we don’t enjoy our partner looking at another body, especially as ya almost always in a sexualised context.
sadgirl wrote:I just signed up so I could comment! I came across this site because I googled “I don’t like when my boyfriend watches porn” because I’m so sick of it being normalised so much, and being made to feel like I’m crazy. And then I came across this site - I have the same thoughts and feelings as you ladies. I’m 33 and it still plagues me and has done so my whole life. I’m so sick of being made to feel like it’s an illness in me, when I talk to any women I know they all hate porn and the soft porn on tV and movies and in everyday life, but they just try not to think about it or talk about it because they know they aren’t “supposed” to feel upset, and the world makes them feel crazy. Or they are too scared to be alone or confront their partners who tell them they are crazy. It’s our culture that is sick! Not us. Sure we may have anxiety and depression and whatever else, but honestly? If tables were turned on men, they too would have the same anxiety and depression. They say they don’t care but if they had to live and breathe the same objectification we do, they would be in a corner rocking. That’s what I feel like doing sometimes. I don’t want to leave the house with my boyfriend for fear of naked girls. And let me tell you, they are getting younger and younger and younger. And men are being primed to drool over younger than ever, even when they are fully grown men. It’s not normal or natural, as they like to tell us all. It’s that they have been brainwashed. Our whole society needs a clean up and overhaul of our culture.
I’m sick of feeling not good enough, I’m sick of women being reduced to body parts to lust over and to rate out of ten. Since when did sex become about objectifying a body? It’s supposed to be a special, spiritual act of self expression and love ( even if in a casual setting it should be based on two people who are attracted to the whole person! Not just a pair of tits or arse). It’s actually so depressing what sex and relationships have turned into. You’re not crazy ladies. Our culture is.
annabelle3 wrote:I have just spent 2 hours crying because of this, then decided to google and got here. Thank you to all who commented here, at least I'm NOT alone although I could swear I was. My new boyfriend likes watching movies. I dread the thought. Today I imagined how he admires this naked actress in a sex scene. I wonder what he thinks, how impressed he is. I wish he understood it is a fake, a fantasy, tons of makeup, scalpel and photoshop work. But maybe he doesn't and he still thinks how unbelievably awesome this other woman is. I'm 35 y.o. and this has been an issue all my life, with all my partners. I'm so ashamed to speak about this - I'm deemed 'insecure' according to our society, I'm 'ill', I've got issues...! I've been going to therapy for general anxiety disorder and my psychotherapist is great but when I mentioned this specific subject she didn't understand me at all. She seems to think it's all normal for men to look at other naked women.. It kills me to not have support in her. I don't know how 'normal' women do this - sit by the man they're with and see him watch naked women having sex..in 'normal', everyday movies.. It hurts me so bad. I can't imagine speaking to my partner about this. I don't want him to have to pretend he's not looking. I just want him to not want to This isn't smth I'm just upset about, I just can't cope!!!
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