I agree. The system is rubbish and getting worse. Saneline is a joke. I never once got a reply. But so is the national autism helpline - made about 30 attempts - didn't get through once. Gave up long ago. I've struggled since 2012 to get a support worker, and still not got there, although I sense things will now improve - but only after after being defrauded of all I have.
Money buys help, it buys health and justice, but what about most of us - who can't afford it? We live in a sick world that worships money and tramples upon those without, especially if they're vulnerable.
Without support from friends I'd be in the grave with my parents and brother.
Don't give up on your sister. Don't feel to proud to ask friends to support you. x