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lydia6
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Queer and needing support.

Postby lydia6 » Mon Oct 10, 2016 5:58 pm

I'm a gay woman in my mid fifties and I am rather isolated. Feel different to most of the people on this estate where I live who aren't all that friendly, so keep myself to myself. Feel so alone here and being disabled cannot really get out of my flat to socialise. Most days my mind dwells on all the activity going on around me, which bring sensitive to noise, really affects me, keeping my mind on full alert 24/7 which has had a profound effect upon me, making me age prematurely. Really worried now as I am not in good health these days and am living in a very bad environment. Get up at night when it is quieter, to feel alone, as there is lots of renovations going on here which causes me mental discomfort too. Just need to know if there are any other gay people on here? Could really do with some support...

mezzaninedoor
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Re: Queer and needing support.

Postby mezzaninedoor » Wed Oct 12, 2016 12:13 pm

Im not able to offer LGBT support but Im sure there is diversity on this board and hopefully someone will respond.
I think regardless of sexuality some of your behaviours are behaviours I have sometimes had. I for some reason find the nighttime less oppressive than the day time without rhyme or reason.
I wish you well.

Isap
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Re: Queer and needing support.

Postby Isap » Wed Oct 12, 2016 1:03 pm

Hi Lydia

I emphasize with all your concerns although I am not gay.

Noise is awful when you have anxiety. I'm in a prison where the noise is terrible at times

The obvious way to reach out to other gay women is on social media and internet forums. I bet there are many in a similar situation to you

You will always be able to post your concerns here without being judged. The only problem is that this forum is very quiet and only a handful of people reply regularly.

Isap x

silentlinda
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Re: Queer and needing support.

Postby silentlinda » Sat Oct 15, 2016 10:14 am

Hi Lydia,

I don't contribute often, but I am also a gay disabled woman in her mid fifties, so just wanted to say hi, you are not alone!

I've found good support from LGBT groups in the disabled community and it's very common for online support and friendship to be more important than face to face friendships for many of us in these situations. One example is https://shift.ms/groups/lgbt-msers/
If you can't find a group specific to your disability(s) most groups will welcome someone without their diagnosis but sharing common problems.

In terms of managing your noise sensitivity, you may find a really immersive activity helps? I have pain that's not resolved by drugs, I volunteer with https://www.zooniverse.org/ and can find myself so absorbed that what was unmanageable pain becomes no more than an annoying distraction.

All the best

otter
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Re: Queer and needing support.

Postby otter » Sun Feb 12, 2017 7:14 pm

Hello there,

I just wanted to say hi and I hear you. When my child was young I was pretty much house bound for the first couple of years and found it really hard to meet people and as a gay single parent often found it hard to fit in with the family groups i sometimes had access to. Something I did find soothing at one of my lowest times was brain entrainments, they helped me feel relaxed at a time I didn't have any head space to call my own aside from 15 minutes or so a day (I was home alone with my young child most of the time) there are some on youtube, I love having them on headphones but you can listen through speakers too...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Op1rgjJAHb8

I am also noise sensitive and have been in house shares where the lack of personal head space wore me down and I was left feeling utterly emptied, it affected my ability to cope with life and people in a huge way. I hope the renovations end soon...

wishing you some head space and wellbeing

warm wishes

rsxo
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Re: Queer and needing support.

Postby rsxo » Wed May 17, 2017 3:46 pm

lydia6 wrote:I'm a gay woman in my mid fifties and I am rather isolated. Feel different to most of the people on this estate where I live who aren't all that friendly, so keep myself to myself. Feel so alone here and being disabled cannot really get out of my flat to socialise. Most days my mind dwells on all the activity going on around me, which bring sensitive to noise, really affects me, keeping my mind on full alert 24/7 which has had a profound effect upon me, making me age prematurely. Really worried now as I am not in good health these days and am living in a very bad environment. Get up at night when it is quieter, to feel alone, as there is lots of renovations going on here which causes me mental discomfort too. Just need to know if there are any other gay people on here? Could really do with some support...


Hi lydia6,

Thanks for sharing your experience - while I am not gay myself, I'm sure there are several others here that are.

Unfortunately, we still live in a society where the fight against homophobia rages on. What I'd note that you aren't to be defined by your orientation. Being gay doesn't change who you are, what you like to do and how much you hate Piers Morgan :)

Live your life the way you want, not the way people say it should be!

Much love <3
RSxo <3


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