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Depression and Impotece

Posted: Wed May 04, 2016 12:12 pm
by devonrichards
Hi everyone, I am new here. I am a nurse and my husband is struggling with depression. He was diagnosed with depression last year by a psychiatrist. At first it was anxiety attacks, but none of the prescribed medications seemed to be working for him. After 4 months of the frequent anxiety attacks, probably once every 2 weeks or so, I noticed a change in his personality. He talked less and he almost always didn't have a motivation to do anything anymore. Yes, he goes to work, but sometimes I have to push him just to take care of himself, like taking a bath and all that.
With regards to our sex life, it has been tragic. We have consulted this with his doctors, and he was prescribed with erectile dysfunction drugs as additional medications he was taking for the depression. I get his medications from treated(dot)com, a trusted online pharmacy so that I can lessen on the cost and I can get his medications delivered at our doorstep within 24 hours. It has worked for 3 months but the depression is still slightly there. He talks about his problems already, but there are times when he just seems very withdrawn.
Has anyone experienced the same thing? Please advice. Thank you!

Re: Depression and Impotece

Posted: Fri May 06, 2016 9:47 am
by deb1960
With regards to impotence, some classes of anti depressants can cause that. If you read up on your husbands meds it should tell you. Although mental illness itself can take away any interest in sex.


Re: Depression and Impotece

Posted: Fri Jun 17, 2016 6:04 pm
by strangeangle
I'd second that some anti-depressants can cause various sexual issues. MH issues can cause the same and of course the dreaded performance anxiety. For me it fell into the latter and not a physical erectile issue. Though getting up and staying up because of anxiety have meant I sometimes taken erectile dysfunction meds. I have found that the enjoyment and sensation aren't the same personally. I also felt guilty I didn't have my previous desire. I would perform just because I felt I should. Vicious circle back to guilt and anxiety.

This was a slope over the last six years and I wasn't a me to talk openly and honestly as I had my masculine pride getting in the way:-) But I was able to talk eventually and it did help. Are you able to talk really openly together? I know it can be difficult for both parties.

On the subject of keeping costs down. If your gp is happy to prescribe you might be better with a NHS prepayment card. If you google that you can see if your husband would spend less that way.

Hope this helps. I think talking openly is the key.


Re: Depression and Impotece

Posted: Fri Nov 11, 2016 4:45 pm
by mezzaninedoor
This is interesting because my interest in sex is almost non existant these last 2 years. I wouldn't say I'm impotent, just that the urge is not there currently.

It doesn't seem to worry my wife too much :) as we still spoon and cuddle etc.

I can see that for someone much younger than I it would be much more of an issue.

Re: Depression and Impotece

Posted: Tue Feb 27, 2018 9:47 pm
by sirhugo
ive noticed reduction in my sex drive as well, but the most noticeable issue is that im finding it much more difficult to "finish". apologies, but im trying to avoid the e word :D :lol:

strangely I dont have any issues "rising to the occasion". I suppose that's something :)

Re: Depression and Impotece

Posted: Tue Mar 06, 2018 7:13 pm
by mihaela
Isn't it weird? I neither have nor want a sex drive. I suppose if you've never had it you don't miss it. :lol:

Re: Depression and Impotece

Posted: Thu Mar 08, 2018 2:28 pm
by sirhugo
sometimes I do miss having a higher sex drive, because despite my lack of it, it can still be friggin awesome :D

but the way I see it now is that sex is not a big deal to me anymore. once you've done it 70,000 times then you just don't feel the need for it as much anymore

ok maybe im exaggerating that number a bit :D

Re: Depression and Impotece

Posted: Fri Apr 20, 2018 1:21 am
by scotty94
When I was with my ex this became a big issue.
He didnt understand that my mood changed a lot and that one moment I wouldn't want to but then like an hour later I would. It caused a lot of arguments.
That along with anxiety and wanting to do it less and less as I got worse and worse as we fought more ultimately ended up with us breaking up.
I did have issues performing for years though... I wasnt quite sure if it was the depression or the result of being raped... tbh... I still dont know.