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Mental Health ruining my life!

Postby missb85 » Sun Aug 27, 2017 7:06 pm

I've made a right mess of things due to my mental state and have ruined my life!

I am at my wits end and have made a complete mess of my job.

Basically my mental health issues have made me struggle on a daily basis, I feel suicidal most days and changes at work have made things harder. The past month I have needed to take time off to help a family member but unable to get leave I made the stupid mistake of exaggerating to get the leave approved.

Yesterday I opened up to my manager who understands my difficulties but has been honest that it doesn't look good and a formal meeting will be needed to investigate but any outcome is ultimately decided by HR. The outcome could be dismissal or disciplinary action.

I have made it clear that I know I have made a mistake and that I want to keep my job, I wasn't in the right frame of mind at the time but this won't matter, ultimately I have been dishonest. Although I would be take improvement action on the chin I know that they are likely to dismiss me.

I have had a couple of interviews so my manager knows I have been looking elsewhere due to the trouble I'm having which won't go in my favour either.

I have applied for 20 jobs in the last 24 hours as I am trying to see the positive and think this may be the push I need to move on. I can resign before my meeting but my concern is references.

I am willing to go through agencies to get some temp work to try out different things and build on my skills. I have a lot of experience and recently completed a qualification.

Next week I am going to call my union and see where I stand but right now I am ill, I can't eat as I'm sick. I can't focus and I feel tingly all over so I also need to see my doctor.I am just thinking the worse, I have a few weeks pay to receive but ultimately if I can't secure work soon I can't afford to live. I'll be homeless as housing benefit won't cover my rent.

If I need to claim benefits I'll be screwed regardless of if I'm dismissed of resign due to ill health. I'll be living on the breadline, make it difficult to find a job and no other way out than to end things.

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Re: Mental Health ruining my life!

Postby deb1960 » Mon Sep 04, 2017 5:03 pm

In England and Wales the charity MIND have centres in various places. I would give them a ring and hopefully they will be able to help.

Deb x

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Re: Mental Health ruining my life!

Postby Cyprus » Sun Sep 10, 2017 12:44 am

Mental health comes under the disability act if u have been suffering for a long time

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Re: Mental Health ruining my life!

Postby jim1978 » Sun Sep 10, 2017 1:39 am

Hi Miss b
+1 with what cyprus said, if its long term it is a disability. If you get on well with your manager then the best thing to do is be honest. Dont try and tell any fibs but just be open and honest about whats going on and how you have been feeling. I dont know what job you currently do but in my employment its always been better to be honest. I know of many that have been sacked, not for the actual wrong doing, but for trying to lie to get out of it.
Let us know how you get on :)

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Re: Mental Health ruining my life!

Postby saiar » Fri Jan 05, 2018 10:48 am

Cypreus wrote:Mental health comes under the review of male extra is nice. disability act if u have been suffering for a long time

I agree, lying is the worst thing to do, you have to be honest. Good luck with the job search too. Would be good to hear an update.
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Re: Mental Health ruining my life!

Postby beach » Mon Jan 08, 2018 6:29 am

Hi, I dont know if this helps, but hope so. With all that is going on is there any way you can write things down, and find a pathway out (over time) that way? You have, ultimately been honest and your initial dishonesty was for an altruistic reason, so dont be hard on yourself. It could, as you say, be the Universe's way of taking you to pastures new.

All the best, beach x

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Re: Mental Health ruining my life!

Postby nonni1 » Tue Jan 09, 2018 9:18 pm

I have had a lot of problems over the last year would recommend your union I am in unite and HR should be there to help have you tried your doctor ? I would say the crisis team as well but every time I have been keep getting messed around on Monday they said they have an employment specialist which should ( not holding my breath) help also it is good you have spoken to someone at work would they help at this difficult time ?

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