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Advice on Motivation and Self Worth

Postby andthistoomustpass » Sat Jan 07, 2017 6:16 pm

Random Thoughts on Motivation and Self Worth

This is a summary of various useful advice I've received on improving motivation and self worth. I posted it elsewhere some time ago.


Focus On The Goal

Ask yourself 'what do I want?'
'What will I get from this activity?'
'Why do / don't I want to do it right now?'
'What's in my long term interests?'

What will it feel like to do this?
Will I feel better or worse if I don't try?

What's the worst that can happen if I try?
Is that better or worse than what will happen if I don't?
What's the best thing that can happen if I try?
Is that better or worse than what will happen if I don't?

Visualise reaching your goal. Nice there isn't it?

Evaluate Yourself

Break down everything you do, home, work, wherever, in an average week / month into individual tasks, events and decisions; from preparing a budget or comforting a friend to deciding to go with an apple rather than a jaffa cake.

List them on one side of a page.

If you have someone close to you who is supportive, ask them to write down all the talents, skills and personality traits required for each individual task.

Or pretend you are evaluating a friend and on the other side of the page write down all the talents, skills and personality traits required for each individual task.

What do you think of the person with all of those traits and abilities?

Change Your Routine

The definition of insanity is repeating the same actions and hoping for a different result.

Do something, anything, different.
Try something, anything, new.

Even if it all feels pointless and life feels washed out, sooner or later you will find activities you enjoy more than sitting on the sofa.

Fresh Air and Exercise.

Go for a walk, however short.
Do more if you can. Hike, Swim, dance, climb, cycle, go to the gym, etc.

Break The Echo Chamber

Talk to someone you wouldn't normally chat to.
Ask them about themselves, their lives, their opinions.

Put Yourself First

Set an hour of me time each day. Treat yourself in that hour to something you want or enjoy.

You have the right to say, no, I don't want to do that, I want to do this.

You are not responsible for other people, their feelings or their actions. They are not responsible for you.

You are responsible for you, your actions or inactions, any young children you may have and your pets. That's it.

Cut Yourself Some Slack

Listen to what you tell yourself, is it kind and caring?
If you wouldn't say it to a friend, why say it to yourself?

Rome Wasn’t Built In A Day

Stop to congratulate yourself on each small victory.
Remember how far you've come.
Congratulate yourself on your progress.

Perfectionism

Superman is perfect, the rest of us will need a break, feel down sometimes, fail at something, make mistakes or simply take a day off.

Don't blame yourself for being a human being.
Don't feel guilty for things beyond your control.

Stop To Enjoy The Small Things

A cool breeze on a hot day, the smell of flowers after the rain.

Equivalence

Remember you are as worthwhile as everyone else in this world.

We are all just people trying to live our lives as best we can.
The people you admire, the people you hate and the people around you have their strengths and weaknesses just like you.

To put it another way, everyone’s bathroom stinks sometimes.

Sleep Is Strength

Don't short change yourself on sleep.
Try to get as much as you need each night.
If you're relying on the alarm clock each day, you probably need more.

Make A Friend Of Food

Strive for a balanced diet. Eat healthy, feel healthy.

Be Positive

It is easy to slip into the habit of dwelling on the negative.

Get into the habit of looking for a positive in everything.

Be Assertive

Assertiveness isn't aggression.
It is recognising that you have the same rights and responsibilities as those around you.

How do you treat yourself and others when you talk?

Passive

'Excuse me, I wonder if I could have a minute, I'm just wondering if I might ask how much that is?'

Assertive

'How much is that?

Aggressive

'Tell me the price of that, right now!'


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Last edited by andthistoomustpass on Fri Sep 07, 2018 11:25 pm, edited 1 time in total.

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Re: Advice on Motivation and Self Worth

Postby christabel » Thu Jan 12, 2017 4:37 pm

Thanks for helpful info.

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Re: Advice on Motivation and Self Worth

Postby johnnoels » Sat Jan 28, 2017 12:11 pm

Nice Post! You have provide the best information to keep on improving motivation and self worth. most of the people are feeling stress due to their daily work. Some are afraid of failure, some are failed in their career. This blog will help them to motivate themselves and do some positive things, remove stress and achieve success in their life.

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Re: Advice on Motivation and Self Worth

Postby shanera » Mon May 22, 2017 8:05 am

you can use task management software or todo list for your self growth and worth . When you do your task on time your motivation level will automatically high.

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Re: Advice on Motivation and Self Worth

Postby dssarescum » Wed Jan 24, 2018 3:04 am

motivation ..getting the evil shits known as the Conservative party out of power. problem is labour are useless too, Corbyn and Abbott are evil

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Re: Advice on Motivation and Self Worth

Postby jijothomas » Sat Mar 03, 2018 11:11 am

Great motivational information. Glad to be a part of this forum.

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Re: Advice on Motivation and Self Worth

Postby livewebtutors » Wed Apr 11, 2018 1:30 pm

nice post

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Re: Advice on Motivation and Self Worth

Postby betterinrecovery » Sun May 20, 2018 10:16 am

Dear andthistoomustpass
Have just read your advice on motivation and self worth
Thank you for your post

andthistoomustpass
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Re: Advice on Motivation and Self Worth

Postby andthistoomustpass » Sun May 20, 2018 9:42 pm

Thanks. It is one of two posts I spent a lot of time on, principally to try to share my knowledge to help others. This thread has become a spam magnet but if it stops it being posted elsewhere then all well and good.


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