I've just posted as I could scream as my mum is getting ill once again.
We've only had a couple of months respite since she 'got better' after her last episode (she's had depressive episodes for the past 44 years) and here we go again - meaning months and months of her behaviour making me, my husband and children, my darling and long suffering dad, my brother and his girlfriend, mum and dad's close friends feel totally shit, frustrated, emotionally drained, causing rows between us - having us run around after her while she gets more and more irrational and demanding - and when she's 'better' being expected to forgive and forget and carry on once more as 'normal'...
I don't know how much more my dad can take - he's threatened to leave her so many times over the years but always stays as he knows I'd end up with the burden of her - but I wouldn't ever blame him if he did. He's not had the life he deserves and he's in his early 70's now and time's running out for him...if he goes first my life will be hell, and that's no exaggeration. Horrible as it sounds I hope he outlives mum so he can have a few years of peace and being able to do what he wants.
Mental health truly does affect everyone around that person.