Support for spouses is really something I need, desperate to need to be with people who understand. I did write an in-depth view of our problem, a while ago, but nobody answered. But to be very brief. My husband worked away, if possible I would go with him, we have lived in various countries, and have always been there for one another.
18 months ago he came home on leave, just as we were digging foundations for massive extension, we spent 2 weeks running around, he didn’t feel like he’d had a break, so I suggested he go to seethe dr and get signed off for a couple of weeks, he is still at home and now going through retirement, he is only 52. We have had major traumas , rows, walking out, him saying he tried to drown himself, he hadn’t he just wanted to hurt me. I have no idea what has caused this, he has/had a stressful job, he won’t tell me why he is depressed, he says he has ptsd, and won’t tell me, because then he would have to worry about me. We had big plans for an early retirement, but not this early. He expects me to accept this, and not question, we may end up loosing the house, that doesn’t bother him.
I am under the dr, for anxiety, and am having counselling. I get no advise, sometimes I hate him for what he has done. I have to walk on eggshells, tonight he accused me of stealing from the freezer, I had a iced lolly, if I don’t hear what he has said, it’s my fault.
We have been together 28 years, and have always been tactile, now I feel like I am just looking into a black hole. At a loss as how to get my husband back.