I’m 17 years old and I am currently dating a girl who has suffered from depression since she was 12 and anorexia since she was 14. She has a history of self-harm, she has been into intensive care for her anorexia and I know of 2 times she has tried to committ suicide in the past. She is funny, strong and very independent, I’ve never met anyone like her. Our relationship was going great up until recently when she began to ignore me, this went on for 5 days, when she finally spoke to me she said that her depression had been taking a toll on her recently. I reassured her that i was there for her and that she didn’t need to feel ashamed of what she was feeling because she can always talk to me. The next day she cancelled on a trip we had been planning for about two months, I wasn’t mad at her even though I had spent over £100 on non-refundable parts of our trip. I told her it’s not her fault but i could tell she believed it was. The next day she asked for more distance in our relationship. I have never had experience with mental illness prior to this so i seeked help from a close friend of my girlfriend. She said to stop talking to her completely, which I am struggling to do because I am worried about her, and to not be surprised if she breaks up with me. I want to do all i can to be there for her, but i can’t help feeling useless and like i’m playing a waiting game. I am posting her to seek advice as to what i should to be there for her. I am in love with her and I don’t want her illness to tear us apart.