I thought things had stabilised with my Bipolar boyfriend. I knew he had difficult days, but I thought we were in a better place.
I have now learned:
He has lied to me about going to work. He hasn't been since mid December. And not just simple lies...this week there was a full blown, intricate story of something going wrong at work. He even faked a long work phone call while at home. Turns out he wasn't talking to anyone. Turns out his boss (who he has avoided calls from) is now in contact with HR for advice. His job is in serious risk. He has mostly been at home doing nothing in the time he should have been at work.
He has lied to me for the entire time we have been together about his financial situation. He owned up about debts a while ago, but kept up lies about how he was managing it and outright lied about the stake he has in a property he said he owned but turns out he part owns. He took a loan out less than a week ago and lied about that too.
He has lied that after going to rehab nearly a year ago for cocaine addiction, he has been clean. Turns out he was only clean for 5 months. And that over the last few weeks has been using frequently.
He has struggled with medication side effects so our sex life has been non existent. He hasn't even kissed me properly in over a month. But it turns out he has been trying on my clothes, looking into buying various cross-dressing accessories and sex toys, and has been watching a lot of transvestite porn. (Just to be clear, I am an open minded person and if this was the only thing I found out today I would probably just be trying to understand it as a fetish.)
He admitted to 'not always remembering' to take his medication. He said he loves me and want our relationship but hates himself and doesn't know what to do.
I don't know what to do.