Hi Ariane and James80
I tried to cheer myself up today by getting my nails done and it worked for a while but town was full of happy couples and it made me sad. He messaged me yesterday asking if I was I OK as he was worried about me, he admits he has no empathy so I’m not sure about the worried bit. I did reply telling him not to worry I was fine.
I’ve never explained but he’s depressed as he’s been involved in a 3 year court battle for access to his three young children. His ex wife is a monster who has made serious false allegations some of which got him arrested and he’s got into serious debt paying for legal help. The case is almost at an end, another year his solicitor thinks, so it is all he can think about. He told me he has nothing to give to our relationship, he just feels empty, but try as I might to explain that I don’t expect anything from him, that all I want is to help and support him as I’ve done for the past 3 years he can’t seem to accept that. His family are not very supportive and his friends think taking him out to get drunk is helpful!! He keeps saying maybe when the case is over things will change and he’s not out there looking to replace me and part of me is willing to wait out this ‘on hold period’ but I don’t think I can.
I agree you need to look after yourself Ariane, I know it’s hard though xx