The selfishness aspect resonates with everyone who suffers from depression. It's all me, me, me all the time. I can see it with my ex... his cousin doing all he can to get him on a course and to get him a job. But my ex doesn't take it seriously and doesn't make an effort to study, preferring to spend his time on Facebook and Messenger. And yet, he is a very intelligent man. I don't think they can make any decisions and they definitely can't manage money. Their minds are not working rationally. They take risks and don't care or don't appreciate the consequences. Just like my ex who wants to re-mortgage his house to buy a car, an expensive watch, and God knows what else. He thinks he can look after his kids when they come over, but how can he if he stays up all night and sleep during the day? It is so frustrating! Unfortunately, unless they get to that point where they realise they need help and seek treatment, there's nothing we can do.
Lillie, you've done so much for your guy. I hope one day, he'll appreciate everything that you have done for him. Sometimes I wish my ex would have let me help him. We might not be where we are today.
James, I've read somewhere that although someone who suffers from depression may seem to be back to their normal self, it takes a while for them to really be back to normal emotionally, where they can start feeling empathy. So it may be that your ex is still not there yet. It can take months. I understand how you feel about sending the letter. It's an awful feeling, where one part of you know that you need to know where you stand, and the other is scared to know the truth. I wish you all the best.
I have my son this weekend so won't be a wild one for me
Looking forward to a lie in and cuddles with my son.
Hope you all have a peaceful weekend xx