Ok gradually catching up..
@Sally, good on you for being the bigger person. Someone as hard as it is, we just have to walk away. I too havent messaged my ex since I last saw him in Dec to collect my things (oh and just a thank you to my bday message he sent 2 weeks ago). I also havent blocked him (my friends think I should so that he hasnt got access to me) but I dont want to. Part of me wants to leave that door open. But I have trained myself not to contact him. Although I do check to see if he is online now and again, I dont message. If he wants me back in his life, then he has to message me and do the work. Xx
@lillie, you definitely need to look out for yourself. These exes of ours become so complacent because they know that they have someone there who will bend over backwards for them no matter what (well so they think!). You have to look after your own interests. It may mean cooling off with the visits. I totally understand your frustration! This one way traffic is so annoying. As much as I dont wish bad on any of them, I truly believe we all reap what we sow. They cant go through life crapping on good people. Xxx
@arwen, sorry to hear that you have been blocked. Take the positive that it will help you to begin to move on. It is awful, but sometimes I guess they have to be cruel to be kind. Im my ex wont contact me because he knows that he has hurt me and feels ashamed about the way he behaved towards me. You can do it. Xxx
@James how are you getting on? Xx