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aethalides
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Christmas do with colleagues anxiety

Postby aethalides » Thu Dec 12, 2019 4:35 pm

Hi

This is my first post with Sane.

I have been suffering from depression and loneliness for a long time now. I have had issues with drug misuse and am currently self-harming.

Tomorrow is a Christmas party from work. I work from home nowadays but I have worked for the company for a dozen years and have always felt isolated and treated as a pariah even when working in the office.

Now I have said I would go and have even bought a fancy t-shirt to wear but I feel very anxious about going.

I am not well versed in being social and usually end up as a wall fixture. On top of that, I can't even touch alcohol to 'loosen up' and 'get merry'
So I'm afraid about going and feeling excluded again or being made fun of but at the same time I am feeling lonely and self-harming and I could do with some human interaction.

Just don't know what to do or how to motivate me for going

lobster
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Re: Christmas do with colleagues anxiety

Postby lobster » Thu Dec 12, 2019 9:21 pm

Hi

It’s weighing up the human need for some interaction with the need to self protect.

In case it’s if any help a lot of people find these gatherings difficult / awful. Even those who look at ease.

You say you have bought yourself a fancy top for it which makes me think you’d quite like to go.

If you did feel like you could manage it maybe just go for a short while. Be with people for a manageable time then excuse yourself saying you need to be somewhere.

lobster
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Re: Christmas do with colleagues anxiety

Postby lobster » Fri Dec 13, 2019 12:31 am

Just be vague, they won’t know, ‘I’ve got to be somewhere/ I’ve promised to help a friend out’ ‘ I have some errands to run before tomorrow, have a good Christmas, bye.’ Sort of thing.

Good luck.

aethalides
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Re: Christmas do with colleagues anxiety

Postby aethalides » Fri Dec 13, 2019 12:05 pm

Thanks everyone

11AM and I'm still undecided. I want to go and I don't want to go.

I'm anxious about going and anxious about not going

aethalides
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Re: Christmas do with colleagues anxiety

Postby aethalides » Fri Dec 13, 2019 1:37 pm

One bonus would be getting a free meal and £30 pound drink money...

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so sad
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Re: Christmas do with colleagues anxiety

Postby so sad » Fri Dec 13, 2019 4:11 pm

Have you gone?

I totally understand the fight between feeling the need to go and not wanting to. I didn't go this year.

hope you're OK/

M

aethalides
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Re: Christmas do with colleagues anxiety

Postby aethalides » Fri Dec 13, 2019 5:41 pm

not yet it starts at 7pm

lobster
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Re: Christmas do with colleagues anxiety

Postby lobster » Fri Dec 13, 2019 8:08 pm

Hello

Just wondering what you decided to do?

Best wishes

Lobster

:)

aethalides
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Re: Christmas do with colleagues anxiety

Postby aethalides » Fri Dec 13, 2019 10:00 pm

didn't want to but coworker texted me asking for a lift so I ended up going. music too loud food is crap but I'm mildly amused

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Re: Christmas do with colleagues anxiety

Postby lobster » Sat Dec 14, 2019 1:15 pm

Oh, what was amusing? Just wondering,
Glad it went ok.

Best wishes


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