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sirhugo
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Re: rage!!!

Postby sirhugo » Sat Jan 13, 2018 10:31 pm

I'm fine just sad I got no replies :D

Cyprus
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Re: rage!!!

Postby Cyprus » Sun Jan 14, 2018 1:00 am

Hi
Hope you got som time off work and dr looked at your meds in my area you can apply for counscelling with out Drs called iapt or uplift don’t know if you have these services
Your plan sounds great exercise and eating well
Think I need one of them as my sofa now has a body imprint ingrained
Take care cyprus

deb1960
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Re: rage!!!

Postby deb1960 » Sun Jan 14, 2018 10:57 am

Hi sirhugo

Sometimes i dont get a reply for a while. Sometimes i dont at all. It can be a bit disconcerting. It really is because everyone bere is using thne site and Sometimes not up to saying anything. If your thread goes dead start a new one if need be

You help people on their threads and thats really good. But yes. we all have tbat need for replies.

Btw. There was a 12 step programme. Emotions Anonymous. IronicallyCumbernauld, near me and Sheffield, where my sister in law lives. I don't think either of them run now. What is strange about any self help group for mental health is they all seem to self destruct or degenerate so that there are about three miserable people saying the same thing every week. I have been a member of five groups over the years. Two are still running

. I occasionally go to one. There are two or three of us. The woman who runs it has bags of confidence and tells us she's zen trained. my arse! However very ocassionally she accidentally says something that makes sense. Stastistically this is likely to happen. When I'm up to it and have time I like to go to listen to the outrageous crap she comes out with and that's the saddest reason it's fallen away. She would contradict herself all the time and it was like watching a sit com. Sometimed she was really rude to people. We'd call it bad manners. She thought it was good technique. What amazed me is that i was the only one who could see through her. Ocassionally i would argue with to the absolute horror of one or two. She didnt mind. It wasnt as though she would lose her following.

I have chatted on sirhugo. I think that group would make a great soap !

Also i wanted to tell you about Emotions Anonymous. It is successful in America i believe

Take care
Deb x

sirhugo
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Re: rage!!!

Postby sirhugo » Wed Jan 17, 2018 3:17 pm

Hi all. Sorry it's been a while but I thought I would provide an update

So I managed to get 3 weeks off work. Less than I wanted but better than nothing. I only get half pay as well so probably best I'm not gone too long. When I get back to doctor I'm going to ask he recommend a phased return and reduced hours

I'm on a different anti depressant now. New ones are called venlafaxine. No difference noticed yet but early days. I didn't sleep well last night hope that's not going to be a habit. Anyone got any experience of these meds?

Been trying hard to excerise and eat better but the lack of motivation is getting in the way

Finally heard back from my counsellors. I start on Monday. Also after weeks of learning messages I finally heard back from something called the social prescribing service. They run various local activities so I thought it was worth a look

Deb it's a small world indeed. I lived in Glasgow for many years. I even briefly went to Cumbernauld College

Cyprus
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Re: rage!!!

Postby Cyprus » Wed Jan 17, 2018 10:21 pm

Hi sir Hugo
I am glad you managed to get some time off work Amd good luck for counscelling on Monday
I am on a phase return to work I would push for it still hard but in long run I think better for our mental health recovery
I hope new medication works out sometimes takes a while to kick and find the one that’s right for you
Take care cyprus

deb1960
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Re: rage!!!

Postby deb1960 » Sat Jan 20, 2018 11:03 am

Hi sir h

I just re read your message
I've been on venlafaxine for 16 years now. Despite episodes of mental illness I have found them to be very good. That is until last September. I've gone into a spell of anxiety which has gradually got worse and shows no sign of going.

My GP isn't changing them as they're still working for my depression (touch wood) So my experience is good. I've not had side effects apart from night sweats. Of course we're all different. I really hope they work for you

Deb x

sirhugo
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Re: rage!!!

Postby sirhugo » Wed Jan 24, 2018 1:11 pm

Time for another update peeps

Had a few days where I pretty much stayed in bed but I feel ok at the moment. Haven't noticed any difference between venlafaxine and citalopram so far in terms of effects.

Yesterday I went to a "social club" meeting just to try it out. After being introduced the all too familiar being ignored began. I have no idea what to say to people so I just sat there. I got more and more miserable watching people chat effortlessly and as usual I started hating them since they could do what I don't seem capable of doing. I left after half an hour as I could feel my misery bottoming out. I have decided not to attempt to socialise any more. It's clearly a trigger for my depression

So how's everyone else today?

deb1960
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Re: rage!!!

Postby deb1960 » Wed Jan 24, 2018 6:32 pm

Hi

It's strange. When I was young I found it very hard to mix.but now, in my 50s I am incredibly sociable. Although it must help me in dealing with my mental health issues, it certainly didn't make me immune to them.

Since you ask, my anxiety is playing me up a lot. I tend to feel a lot of guilt for being unwell so Im saying to myself, I didn't make it happen and I can't make it go. That's my new mantra and for me it's a good one.

Deb x

need.help
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Re: rage!!!

Postby need.help » Thu Jan 25, 2018 4:31 pm

Hi
Well done for trying the club! I think you seem like a nice person to talk too :)
Take care x

teamn
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Re: rage!!!

Postby teamn » Sat Feb 10, 2018 5:12 pm

Sir Hugo

You've been on my mind and miss our combos, miss all the contact with the guys on here actually.. sorry to read that the social group was unsuccessful.
As your personality comes across so well in writing. .is it possible to write down a few things you would say.. like a few different opening statementa, few questions you may want to ask someone else, and something about yourself you don't mind sharing. .like for example how you felt at last social group or what you'd like to get out of it..

Then you could try once again at the group and go for armed and prepared.. it's massive step to go to that environment. .I feel great talking with people..but I guess I would sit quietly also on my first time and just obserb.

So it's fine to try again as an experiment to building your social skills..unfortunately you can't avoid people forever and it would be mean of you to keep your fabulous personality and humor from the real world..GO GET THEM. TIGER. ..

I may not be here often but always thinking about my online community

Maybe use this writing tool for a while in all scenarios. .bring a notepad with you when you go out..or tap some things to me to on on your phone..while you observe and listen to others who your around.. (everyone always on their phone nowadays do it won't look pdd)..

Just a suggestion. ..no pressure xx


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