Regarding self harm. Many years ago my daughter self harmed. As a mum I found it immensely distressing. With the help of my support worker I learnt a little.,perhaps not enough to use on this forum, but at the time, given this was 2001 and self harm was not understood at all, it helped me a lot.
If the very little I'm telling you is nothing new, I'm sorry.
Firstly A always did it where it couldn't be seen. SH aren't looking for attention.
It is used to divert the pain in their mind.
It is a coping mechanism and whilst it is destructive it is perhaps the best way the person
Can cope at this time.
My daughter SH,, (not hospital needs) for a number of years. My support worker told me it was her way of Coping at the moment. That was very good advice. She stopped for about a year and then came to see me in a distressed state. She needed stitches but cried at the idea of hospital.
Because of what I'd learnt I was able to reassure her that this was how she was Coping at the moment but she wouldn't alway do this. I told it was better to go to the hospital as that way it would heal better.
I was very calm and ok about it and I believe that approach made a huge difference. She was living with her dad at the time. Prior to this he'd minimumised it no different to getting drunk on a Saturday night. When I took her back and she told him he was different. Saying, Right, what's all this about self harming. Bless her. She said, quite calmly, it's just my way of Coping at the moment. Sometimes it amazes me that my ex husband is a social worker specialising in child protection.
Okay.. My main reason is to give advice concerning this subject. In order to do that I had to mention my daughter and bringing my ex into it was purely to put him down.