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christabel
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The next few weeks

Postby christabel » Mon Dec 12, 2016 8:09 pm

How are you coping with the next few weeks? I think there will be a few like me who would rather not bother. I will try to participate a bit if it is only for the benefit of the family.

Has anyone any tips for getting through it all?

Is it me or do others hate the monotony or the same things having to happen at the same time every year. People like sheep.

I sound like a miserable bah humbug.

Chris

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Re: The next few weeks

Postby andthistoomustpass » Tue Dec 13, 2016 12:56 am

I don't do Christmas either. I've no one else to think of so I can let it pass with a good book or two. Only tip I can think of is to look forward to the good bits. Try and get a little excited if you can. As I'm sure you know, if we are expecting not to like something then chances are we won't.
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Love your last entry on word association. Hahaha :)

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Re: The next few weeks

Postby mihaela » Tue Dec 13, 2016 6:57 am

I'm just the same as you two. I do put up decorations and make my own Christmas food, but that's an autistic routine I can't let go of. I get excited about it just like a child, but I don't crave presents at all. I've no family, and I stay in on The Big Day reading, wallowing in happy memories, watching videos, playing music and eating! My cats wear festive collars too :D

I don't think it's that we're 'bah, humbug!' but rather that we just don't see the point of it all. I don't conform in so many ways; I don't follow the flock. To me it's great for children, but otherwise it just gets in the way, and it's far too commercialised in this country - spoilt beyond repair :( . Craciun in Romania and Moldova - especially the rural parts (which is most parts) - is so very different - still very Christmassy.

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Re: The next few weeks

Postby count-brakula » Tue Dec 13, 2016 7:49 am

Hi Chris,
You're right, this is a tough time of year for a lot of us, doubly so for anyone suffering from S.A.D. with the winter solstice being so close. I try to focus on the aspects of Christmas that are important and meaningful, while doing my best to ignore and avoid the superficial and overly commercialised garbage that we are bombarded with.
Thanks to the years of depression, I find it nigh on impossible to get into anything even resembling a festive spirit. That said, I'm still determined not to be a sour puss and spoil anybody else's good time.

Anyway, seasonal blues aside, how have things been going for you?

Take care,
Mike.

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Re: The next few weeks

Postby christabel » Tue Dec 13, 2016 10:21 pm

Thanks all.

Problems with internet

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Re: The next few weeks

Postby patchybilbo » Wed Dec 14, 2016 5:38 pm

My mum died at Xmas twenty years ago, so it's never been the same. That said, when my don was younger I got into it, but now he is older I June can't wait for it to be over. It's do false, but at least people are nice to others for a few days so we should be grateful for that, although I do tend to hide away from it all

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Re: The next few weeks

Postby christabel » Wed Dec 14, 2016 6:38 pm

Hi patchybilbo and welcome to the forum.

To lose someone at a time when everyone else is partying must have made it doubly hard to cope with. People enjoying themselves when you are broken inside with grief. They would not know unless they experienced it themselves.

How have things been lately for you?

Take care Chris.

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Re: The next few weeks

Postby christabel » Wed Dec 14, 2016 7:01 pm

Hi Mike. Thanks for your support. In answer I'm just about coping. I tend to try to keep steady, not overtax mind or body. Saying that I had a hospital appointment last week Where we need two buses both ways and I remarked to my husband if we are not ill after being in proximity to all these people coughing I would be very surprised.

Guess what. I've been ill since yesterday coughing, eyes and nose streaming. Hubbys fine which is probably just as well. Not that I am saying men complain a lot.

I'm lucky really because not that long ago I could not easily get on a bus even for a short journey because of panic attacks.

Waiting at the moment to see when they are going to operate on my sister to see if they have got all the cancer or whether it has affected other organs and need to act accordingly. The surgery was going to be before Christmas so anytime now.

It is nice to see a bit of humour on Here. It is nice to have a smile even if it is fleeting.

Thought you might be interested. There were 12 dolphins passing through our coast yesterday. Don't normally hear of them at this time of year here. Someone got a brilliant photo.

How have you been? Is your nephew being spoilt this Christmas?

Take care. X Chris

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Re: The next few weeks

Postby count-brakula » Thu Dec 15, 2016 7:13 am

Hi Chris,
It's good to hear from you,

I'm sorry to hear that you've been down with a bug, I tend to be in the same boat as you when comes to venturing out in public, I inevitably end up catching some form of lurgie when I do. I'm glad that you managed to to make those bus journeys regardless, it requires a lot of strength and determination to fight through the anxiety. The way I see it is, the outside world may see as insignificant, but it's still a victory and something to be proud of.

Thanks for the update on how your sister is fairing, and my hopes and prayers continue to go out for her.

That's great news about the dolphins, I recently heard that with the Atlantic warming up and is now teeming with squid, if thats the case, we could be in for quite a few more sightings as they follow the food source.
On a side note, the auto-suggest on my iPad wanted to write in teeming with squirrels as opposed to squid, I must say I got a chuckle from that mental image. I'm not sure if it's my writing style or what exactly, but I had disable the autocorrect on this thing pretty much as soon as I got it, otherwise I fear I would have inadvertently insulted a lot of people.

You're right, I'll definitely be spoiling my nephew, and I'll continue to do so for as long as I can still afford to do it. For the past few years I've been buying most of my gifts from the Natural History Museum store, I've found it a good deal less stressful being able to get almost everything in one place.
Speaking relieving stress have you tried Japanese picture puzzles at all?
They work on a similar principle as minesweeper, but as you work through the puzzle you slowly reveal a picture. I've found it very easy to lose myself while playing them.

Take care,
Mike.

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Re: The next few weeks

Postby christabel » Fri Dec 16, 2016 8:41 pm

Hi Mike how have you been doing?

It was nice to get some credit for accomplishing something that can be a trial for us. Thank you for that, it doesn't often happen does it?

Really been laid low all week with this stinking cold. Might attempt to go out a bit tomorrow but once the cold air hit my lungs I know the coughing fits will start. Getting fed up now especially as we haven't had many visits from family. Don't want baby to catch this. She is teething already and just had her second lot of jabs on Wednesday. She's absolutely gorgeous. Should see the love she has for great granddad, me as well, but him especially.

I must admit I have had some near missed with the auto-suggest. Some of the words really make me laugh out loud.

I did not realise dolphins etc would feed on squid. One of these days I will realise my dream of seeing them when I'm down at the beach. It's not as often as we moved slightly further into our village to where we were. Still walking distance, when we get back round to doing it.

Hope you are ok. Take care x Chris


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