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by lilliep
Sun Apr 22, 2018 12:43 pm
Forum: Family, Friends and Carers
Topic: Depressed boyfriend has pushed me away
Replies: 930
Views: 89307

Re: Depressed boyfriend has pushed me away

Hi Ariane I’m glad you feel a bit better xx I’ve had a message this morning saying ‘sorry, it wasn’t meant to be like this’ I don’t know what he means, I hate talking via message but he seems to only be able to communicate that way. Like your man I know he’s scared of commitment and I guess I was ju...
by lilliep
Sun Apr 22, 2018 8:45 am
Forum: Family, Friends and Carers
Topic: Depressed boyfriend has pushed me away
Replies: 930
Views: 89307

Re: Depressed boyfriend has pushed me away

Thanks Arwen and Sally I think it’s a mix of depression and who he is. He blames everything on his upbringing (which was pretty screwed up I admit) and what his ex did to him (again pretty screwed up). He is full of self pity and won’t even try to help himself. He’s meant to be starting Skype chats ...
by lilliep
Sat Apr 21, 2018 10:13 pm
Forum: Family, Friends and Carers
Topic: Shut out of new relationship
Replies: 71
Views: 8025

Re: Shut out of new relationship

Mimosas don’t feel sorry for ranting. He could have made it quite clear to you what was going on and he didn’t. I’m so so sorry you had to find out this way. I hope you can now feel a little relief that you have closure but I know it won’t be easy to forget and move on.

Lillie xx
by lilliep
Sat Apr 21, 2018 8:21 pm
Forum: Family, Friends and Carers
Topic: Depressed boyfriend has pushed me away
Replies: 930
Views: 89307

Re: Depressed boyfriend has pushed me away

Hi Ariane

I’m so sorry about your experience today. Don’t worry, today wasn’t a big success for me either, he made it quite clear we are done and I’m sort of glad because now I can give up fighting.

Take care

Lillie xx
by lilliep
Sat Apr 21, 2018 4:40 pm
Forum: Family, Friends and Carers
Topic: Depressed boyfriend has pushed me away
Replies: 930
Views: 89307

Re: Depressed boyfriend has pushed me away

Oops, feels like I’m the only one posting here please forgive me for forum spamming. Well he broke the silence with a message telling me Avicii was dead ... typical DJ ... sad nonetheless, 28 is no age to die and I liked his music. Which led to a whole conversation and the offer of a meal and night ...
by lilliep
Sat Apr 21, 2018 2:28 pm
Forum: Family, Friends and Carers
Topic: Shut out of new relationship
Replies: 71
Views: 8025

Re: Shut out of new relationship

Hi Mimosas My goodness you have made such a long trip, he could at least give you an answer. But these people aren’t rational and whilst a rational man would give you the answer you need a depressed one won’t. My man doesn’t want me anymore he says but he doesn’t want to let me go. It’s not a fair s...
by lilliep
Fri Apr 20, 2018 6:33 pm
Forum: Family, Friends and Carers
Topic: Depressed boyfriend has pushed me away
Replies: 930
Views: 89307

Re: Depressed boyfriend has pushed me away

Hi Ariane Glad to hear you are OK. I didn’t like that post either. My ex emotionally and physically abused me and you are right that article was more applicable to domestic violence than depression. My guy was so amazing when I met him. He hated what my ex had done to me. I actually wrote a court st...
by lilliep
Fri Apr 20, 2018 4:36 pm
Forum: Family, Friends and Carers
Topic: Depressed boyfriend has pushed me away
Replies: 930
Views: 89307

Re: Depressed boyfriend has pushed me away

Hi Scn Sorry your man feels drinking is more useful than getting help, mine is much the same. I can’t believe how he has become so cold and uncaring. I told him it was cruel to raise false hopes by asking me to stay over, shares his bed etc. He said he just asked so we could have a night out and I d...
by lilliep
Fri Apr 20, 2018 8:04 am
Forum: Family, Friends and Carers
Topic: Depressed boyfriend has pushed me away
Replies: 930
Views: 89307

Re: Depressed boyfriend has pushed me away

Hi James What I find hard is the way he blames me for everything. Like saying I made him unhappy because I was always having a go at him, that we always did what I wanted ... none of this is true, I’m actually an expert eggshell walker, but it made me question myself and wonder if it was my fault in...
by lilliep
Thu Apr 19, 2018 10:30 pm
Forum: Family, Friends and Carers
Topic: Depressed boyfriend has pushed me away
Replies: 930
Views: 89307

Re: Depressed boyfriend has pushed me away

Hi James Thanks for sharing this. It was helpful. I am not sure where I am at the moment. Still in sort of limbo I think. I’ve not seen him for 2 weeks now and he’s not suggested meeting up himself or made much effort to communicate. Looking back he never treated me that well after he got depressed,...

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