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Relying on yourself instead of others

Trusting others can be especially difficult for some people. They may not feel comfortable sharing their feelings or responsibilities. They may take on extra responsibilities, or prefer to be 'in charge' - in other words, they'd rather not rely on anyone else. Other people may thus think of them as ‘independent’.

This may not be immediately problematic - some people rely on themselves for years. However, without anyone else to trust, if that person’s confidence is knocked and they begin to doubt their ability to cope, then suicidal thoughts, feelings and behaviour can escalate rapidly. 

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Suicidal person point of view

"I was very good at coping with things on my own and sorting things out for myself and never asking for help or support from anybody. Because, you know, I can sort it, I'm independent. But you're not, that's the thing."

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Suicidal person point of view

"I was very good at coping with things on my own and sorting things out for myself and never asking for help or support from anybody. Because, you know, I can sort it, I'm independent. But you're not, that's the thing."

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Family/friend point of view

“I think he had a lot of trust issues from his divorce. We tried to encourage him to take partners for his GP practice so he could occasionally have a holiday, but he wouldn't trust anyone. The extra admin stuff he did, it was because one of the receptionists had done it once, got it wrong once, and he'd decided: 'Right, I'm going to do it myself from now on'. That was the kind of attitude he had to most things, he didn't really trust anyone to do anything.”