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Putting others before yourself

People who become suicidal frequently have a highly developed sense of responsibility towards others, combined with a sense that their own needs are relatively unimportant.

Their sense of worth depends on being able to give to others, even at the expense of their own health and wellbeing. 

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Suicidal person point of view

“It made me feel like I’m still useful. I might be disabled, but I can still offer something to these young people and children in my house. Someone needs this Disability Living Allowance pack done, or someone needs help with this letter.  I have to do that, and if I end up in hospital I know I’ve done what I needed to do.”  

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Suicidal person point of view

“It made me feel like I’m still useful. I might be disabled, but I can still offer something to these young people and children in my house. Someone needs this Disability Living Allowance pack done, or someone needs help with this letter.  I have to do that, and if I end up in hospital I know I’ve done what I needed to do.”  

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Family/friend point of view

 “She wasn’t content with herself, unless she was giving. She got a lot of positive feedback, but she somehow or other wouldn’t accept it.  She was becoming more and more giving and not realising the toll it was actually taking on her.”