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Needing to have a role

People who are suicidal often experience their own worth, and thus the purpose of living, in terms of a role, for example a role in their family or workplace. 

If this role is lost, for example through retirement, redundancy, or children growing up, or if they can no longer fulfil it, perhaps because of illness, they can experience themselves and their lives as worthless. 

'Now her daughter didn't need her, she felt she could go...'

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Suicidal person point of view

“I do feel, even when I'm well that that's my role: to look after everybody. I think that's a mother isn't it, to look after everybody but myself, and it's very difficult because I feel as if, if I admit to anybody that I'm not coping, then it's almost as if I'm failing.”

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Suicidal person point of view

“I do feel, even when I'm well that that's my role: to look after everybody. I think that's a mother isn't it, to look after everybody but myself, and it's very difficult because I feel as if, if I admit to anybody that I'm not coping, then it's almost as if I'm failing.”

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Family/friend point of view

“I think her downward transition started when her daughter went to university and she thought her daughter didn't need her anymore. She said in her suicide notes that she'd contemplated suicide many times in her life, and it was me and her daughter that had stopped her.  But now that her daughter didn't need her she felt she could go.  We didn't realise, we knew that she would miss her, but none of us realised she was devastated by it.”