Dignity, Respect, Compassion, The right SUPPORT
Posted by Spiderman1
22nd May 2015

Hi Sane Community

This is my very first blog, in fact i tried yesterday, as a new member, and did not quite get it right.

I have had Mental Health difficulties all my adult life, well over 30 years, In the main I have tried my best to deal with this, (in general public terms) like some big dark terrible secret, because of the lack of understanding or tolerance on Mental Health. This is coupled with personal shame and feeling of guilt, self inadequacies, fear of rejection etc.

I hope my subject title tells you what I am about. Through various group therapies, day centres, hospital stays what I can tell you is that I have found is that people with Mental Health difficulties, are some of the kindest, most caring, most compassionate, non-judgemental people you will ever get to meet. They are also the most talented. I would encourage anyone to speak or spend just a little time with someone with Mental Health, and if it did not change their views or opinions I would be amazed.

Never at any point would I say or write anything that would cause alarm, or distress, I have hurt too much to do that to anyone, but I am new to writing, especially about my own Mental Health Difficulties.

I am about to raise a point about raising the parity between mental health and physical health, not to label but to ensure anyone with mental health issues receives the right support and as mentioned treated equally, fairley, with dignity, respects and compassion. Please remember it is not a label by me.

Under the equality and diversity law of 2010, if you have a long term mental health illness (over 12 months) then you are considered by law to have a disability. Now many people would not want to consider themselves has having a disability and have my upmost respect.

If the law was universally recognise would mental health not get the same respect as physical health, people dont laugh at people in wheelchairs, plastercasts, or crutches.Why should we not be treated equally simply because we have difficulties associated with our minds etc. Whatever the mental health difficulty is it still has a debilitating effect on us.

Employers, whom many have an equal opportunities policy have the responsibility not to descriminate, and or provide reasonable adjustments to support you, so if you submit an application, and are refused without explanation or due consideration (if you declare mental health disability on your application) you surely have a right to ask why. Is it not the responsibility of the disability employment advisor or Jobcentre to find out why you were not considered, especially if it is demonstated you have further need of support.

If you are able to work that is fantastic, however if you are not, and some mental health problems make it extremly difficult to function in a work environment, should we not get understanding and respect and not demonise or label the same as those that are capable but wont work. There is a very simple way to determine if you are a can't work, wont work person, your medical records. If you are genuinely not able to work there should be and end to pressure and the subsequent distress this can cause. Give us dignity, the right support, space and time to heal.

Again because mental health does not have the same parity, it appears not as much funding is allocated for services. A day is a very long time if you are depressed, how can your wellbeing be looked after if access to therapies can be weeks, if not months. Should services cover all aspects to help in recovery. Does it not appear that we are told of what is available rather than what is needed.

Please remember, you are very special, talented, caring, and most valued. I describe myself as surviving the day, doing that takes alot of strength and courage, someone everyone on this website has universally in common. Be kind to yourselfs. Lets do what we can to eradicate stigma and ignorance on Mental Health.

Small steps, big changes.

Kindest regards and respect to all.


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